The Stars of Love
some thoughts on love magic and a new lecture out now
Lover’s Rock
When I need to be rescued, you're there
When I need a place to swim to in a storm
I think of you
And all my life
And in all my life
- Sade, Lover’s Rock
I am a romantic who has a hard time falling in love. Or, put another way, there’s a part of me so terrified of being fully seen that I fall hard for those who won’t ever touch it. On the one hand, I feel so vulnerable, a live wire to those who manage to graze me, while another part of me is triumphantly, sadly, assured of her essential solitude.
And yet there’s nothing I believe in more than love; in all its forms it tickles me. I love when my friends find their person, I love crying at weddings, I love helping my friends, I love romcoms, I love buying myself treats or flowers just because. For Valentine’s Day, I will make myself steak au poivre, shrimp cocktail, a dirty martini, just because I want to. Because I love love.
I don’t see these two parts of me as contradictions. I believe both impulses sprang from the same source as what made me want to spend time with the stars of love this year as my big 2025 project— and what makes me want to share them with you today. I wanted to see how my continual movement towards love would shift and expand when inviting in the fixed stars.
I have primarily begun working with Sirius, the dog star, and Alphecca, the flower crown. I would reach out to Sirius, say a prayer with him, whenever the Moon aspected his position at 14º Cancer. With Alphecca, I make a date with her once a month, performing a ritual before taking myself out to dinner.
As the idea for this class was conceived, I also included two more stars: Mirach and Alpheratz, both part of the Andromeda, or chained maiden constellation. I reached out, lit incense, visioned and learned with them too.
There is so much I can say, so many shifts I’ve experienced, spending time with these stars. I’ve become more embodied, feeling better in my animal soul and in my senses than I ever have before. I am more social, finding it easier to make friends and chat up strangers after years of fear and hesitation around it. Songs keep pouring out of me fully formed, again and again. A friend, who’s a fashion designer, released a dress that looks exactly like what I’ve been dreaming after and tailored it to fit me perfectly. I’ve seen so many amazing movies that bring me to tears over the past few months and felt even closer to my friends, making new ones too.
But there has also been deeper threads to pull at, wounds to attend to. One of the biggest lessons of working with these stars has been surrender, which seems to be the very essence of love and the very thing I have been resisting. These stars, Sirius in particular, have illumined all the inner beliefs and past stories that are keeping me both too far away and too enmeshed, uncovering truths that have been living in my animal body for decades. If I wasn’t familiar with the spiritual twists and turns I would be worried: but like cleaning a room that becomes messier before it straightens out, I knew that feeling these wounds is the key to alchemizing them.
I’m realizing that part of getting to the good, truly worthy things in life means having boundaries around who or what isn’t for me. I’m learning true connection means being curious about what I’m feeling and what others are experiencing rather than assuming and disengaging. And, when old stories and voices that portend the worst spring up, I ask the stars for help. They listen.
New Class: The Stars of Love: Using the Fixed Stars for Romance and Connection
My new offering is meant to help you learn about these four stars and begin building your own relationships with them, making your love celestial, cosmic, but embodied and grounded.
This lecture will help you with all manner of love and connection including:
romantic relationships
healing relational blocks
making friends and increasing sociability
maintaining healthy boundaries
deepening commitment
alchemizing heartbreak
increasing creativity and making art to heal
promoting self-love and compassion
beautifying and romanticizing your life
working through social anxiety
bringing in opportunities (and resources) to treat yourself
improving your sex life
releasing guilt around your desires
healing codependence
surrendering to love
feeling part of it all
I know this to be true because I’ve experienced their magic myself.
In other words, you don’t need to be single or looking for romantic love to benefit from these stars.
If you’re someone looking to bring more lushness, connection and cosmic belonging into your life than these stars are for you.
During this video lecture, I dive deep into four stars from the lens of love:
Mirach, girdle of Andromeda, 0º Taurus
Sirius, alpha star of Canis Major, 14º Cancer
Alpheratz, head of the Andromeda/navel of Pegasus, 14º Aries
Alphecca, alpha star of Corona Borealis, 12º Scorpio
Each of these stars gives us a different slant on love and I’ll give you plenty of information to help you determine which one(s) are best suited for your needs.
But I promise each of these offers so many beautiful, untold benefits if you show up an trust them.
This wisdom comes from both my years of study of the fixed stars and my own direct experience: I know these stars are truly magic because I have seen and felt it for myself.
If you’re scared about building a spiritual practice, I promise it’s as simple as lighting a candle and sitting in receptive silence. There is no dogma or belief needed: just an open heart.1
And even if you just want to learn about these stars, there is so much juicy, in-depth information about the contours of these stars that you will get so much from watching it.
Happy Valentine’s Day, babes.
Treat yourself for me < 3
Love,
Chloe